I’m in a bit of a complicated situation. I (42F) recently found out that my soon-to-be ex-spouse (45M) claims he spoke to two lawyers who told him he has every right to meet my new partner. As far as I know, that’s not a legal requirement. He says it’s to protect our child, but honestly, he’s the one who has created a high-conflict situation. I’m just trying to keep my distance and co-parent as peacefully as possible since I take care of our child about 85% of the time. My new partner doesn’t want to meet him under these circumstances, which I totally understand. Is this really a thing? We don’t have a formal custody plan yet, and we won’t until March, so it’s not in writing anywhere.
No, there’s no law requiring you to introduce your new partner to your ex. It sounds more like he’s trying to control the situation. Focus on what’s best for your child.
Happy said:
No, there’s no law requiring you to introduce your new partner to your ex. It sounds more like he’s trying to control the situation. Focus on what’s best for your child.
That’s what I thought! It just feels like another way for him to exert control.
You’re doing the right thing by prioritizing your peace. If your new partner isn’t comfortable, that’s valid. Just keep focusing on your child.
Wade said:
You’re doing the right thing by prioritizing your peace. If your new partner isn’t comfortable, that’s valid. Just keep focusing on your child.
Thank you! It really helps to hear that from someone.
It might help to document everything just in case it comes up later. Having a record can be useful if he tries to push this issue.
Merritt said:
It might help to document everything just in case it comes up later. Having a record can be useful if he tries to push this issue.
Good idea! I’ll make sure to keep notes about all interactions.
In high-conflict cases, it’s common for one parent to try to demand meetings. Stick to your boundaries. You’re not obligated to meet anyone if it makes you uncomfortable.
West said:
In high-conflict cases, it’s common for one parent to try to demand meetings. Stick to your boundaries. You’re not obligated to meet anyone if it makes you uncomfortable.
Exactly! I just want to keep things calm for our child.
If he continues to pressure you, it might be worth consulting with a family law attorney. They can clarify your rights in this situation.
Teo said:
If he continues to pressure you, it might be worth consulting with a family law attorney. They can clarify your rights in this situation.
I think I might do that. I need to know my rights moving forward.