I’m due soon, and the dad is really on and off about wanting to be a father. I was honest with him and said that if he really didn’t want to be a dad, I wouldn’t put him on the birth certificate. I know it wouldn’t even be easy for me to put him on child support if I didn’t, which he agreed to. But now I heard from his mom that he said he was going to sue me if he wasn’t on the certificate. I’m obviously going to put him on the certificate now, but could he have actually done that?
Honestly, it’s good that you’re putting him on the birth certificate. In California, if he’s not on it, he might have a harder time claiming parental rights later.
Gloria said:
Honestly, it’s good that you’re putting him on the birth certificate. In California, if he’s not on it, he might have a harder time claiming parental rights later.
Can he really sue for that though? Seems a bit extreme.
@Blue
He could try, but it’s more about establishing paternity. Without being on the certificate, it complicates things for him.
I think he could potentially take legal action to establish paternity if he’s not listed, but it’s a complicated process. He might just be saying that to scare you.
Baylee said:
I think he could potentially take legal action to establish paternity if he’s not listed, but it’s a complicated process. He might just be saying that to scare you.
Yeah, people often talk about suing, but it’s not always that simple. If he really wants to be involved, he should just take the steps to be recognized as the father.
@Denise
Exactly! If he’s serious about being a dad, it’s in his best interest to be on the birth certificate.
Just remember that putting him on the certificate gives him rights, but it also means he could pursue child support if he wanted. Make sure you’re ready for that.
Yola said:
Just remember that putting him on the certificate gives him rights, but it also means he could pursue child support if he wanted. Make sure you’re ready for that.
True, but it sounds like he’s not even sure he wants to be a dad. If he’s wishy-washy, that could play in your favor later.
@Reign
Yeah, exactly. It’s a lot to think about. Just make sure you’re protecting yourself and your child.
Best to just put him on it to avoid any drama. You can always sort things out later if he decides to be more involved or not.
Cameron said:
Best to just put him on it to avoid any drama. You can always sort things out later if he decides to be more involved or not.
That makes sense. Better to have everything on the table now than deal with complications later.
I’ve heard stories about this. It’s always better to have clear legal standing. If he’s serious about being a dad, he should want to be on the birth certificate anyway.
Kendall said:
I’ve heard stories about this. It’s always better to have clear legal standing. If he’s serious about being a dad, he should want to be on the birth certificate anyway.
Right? It just seems like he’s trying to play mind games. Protect yourself and your child first.