My ex-husband and I share our 3 kids. He gets them every weekend, but for the baby, he only sees them a few hours a week. He’s a good dad, but he lied to the judge about paying for extracurriculars, which he hasn’t done in months. The judge went from a $1200 guideline to $500 for all three kids. Why would the judge do this? I cover all expenses, and he makes double what I do. Is there any way to challenge this?
It sounds like the judge might have considered his time with the kids and his low expenses when setting the amount. If he’s not truthful, that could be grounds for modification. Gather evidence of your expenses and consult a family lawyer.
You need documentation showing he isn’t paying for those activities. Ask for receipts and school records. Judges don’t like liars, and he could face serious consequences.
Why weren’t you there to point out his lies in court? You could have clarified that he isn’t paying for those activities.
You should have informed the judge about his false claims. Always ask for proof if someone says they’re covering costs.
Let the kids do extracurriculars and have him pay for them. You shouldn’t be sending food over; he can afford his own.
I wasn’t prepared for the court. We were on good terms, and I didn’t want to seem difficult. I thought he was honest about what he could pay.
Just send the kids to him more often since he’s a good dad. That might help your situation.
Consider getting him off your accounts or creating your own. Request for an increase in support.
Keep in mind that child support isn’t meant to equalize incomes.
Stop providing extras. Ask for proof of what he claims to pay and request a modification.
Document everything: expenses, time spent, activities. It might take a while, but it’s worth it to go back to court.
Bring all your receipts and go back to court with them.
We aren’t divorced yet, and he has access to my accounts. He took proof of expenses he never paid.
Is his name on your accounts too?
Open a new bank account and change your passwords. Let the judge know he lied.
Is this a temporary order?
Get him off your accounts and gather proof that he’s not paying for anything extra.