My 14-year-old stepdaughter is threatening to make false claims against my husband with CPS and call the cops on him so she can live only with her mother. She has acted out since she was 9, and every time my husband disciplines her, she opens a CPS investigation to be removed from our home. We have 50/50 custody, and her bio mom has enabled her bad behavior. We’re worried about raising our two younger children outside the CPS system.
I have a friend who went through something similar and regretted letting his daughter go to her mom. The mother didn’t change, and now the daughter has no relationship with either parent.
At 14, she can legally decide where to live. It sounds like she will make your lives difficult until she moves. Let her go.
Kid is 14. She is old enough to decide where she wants to live. Let her go.
We went through the same thing. Document everything and set boundaries. Let her know that her behavior is not acceptable.
Why are you forcing a teenager to live where she doesn’t want to live?
Let her go. Also consider whether her claims may be true.
Her claims might not be false. Consider allowing her to live with her mother if that’s what she wants.
Let her make her choices. It’s not the right thing to do, but she needs to express her feelings.
She’s old enough to be in charge of her choices. Let her go live with her mom.
You need to modify the custody agreement. Let her go and protect your younger kids.
If your husband pays child support and contacts her mother, it isn’t considered abandonment legally.