I’m the custodial parent and considering changing my kids’ school because I’m moving to a new neighborhood about 20 minutes away. I’m the primary residential parent, but I’m not sure if I just need to inform the other parent or if I need their approval before making the switch. Anyone know how this works?
It probably depends on your custody agreement. Does the other parent have joint legal decision-making authority?
Camden said:
It probably depends on your custody agreement. Does the other parent have joint legal decision-making authority?
I think we have joint legal decision-making. Does that mean I need to ask for their permission?
@Eden
Yeah, with joint legal decision-making, you’d likely need their agreement. If they disagree, you might have to go to court.
If you’re the primary residential parent, you might just need to inform them, unless your agreement says otherwise.
Tatum said:
If you’re the primary residential parent, you might just need to inform them, unless your agreement says otherwise.
Good to know! I’ll double-check my custody paperwork to see if it mentions school decisions specifically.
I had a similar issue. Ended up needing court approval because my ex wouldn’t agree to the school change.
Micah said:
I had a similar issue. Ended up needing court approval because my ex wouldn’t agree to the school change.
Did the court side with you? I’m worried about how long that process might take.
@Eden
It took a couple of months, but they agreed it was in the best interest of the kids, so hang in there!
If you have sole legal decision-making, you probably don’t need their approval—just let them know what’s happening.
Brooklyn said:
If you have sole legal decision-making, you probably don’t need their approval—just let them know what’s happening.
I don’t have sole decision-making. Sounds like I might have to deal with this together with the other parent.
@Eden
In that case, just explain why the new school is better for the kids. That might help them agree without going to court.
Are you moving because of work or something else? Sometimes reasons like that can help make your case stronger in court.
Emma said:
Are you moving because of work or something else? Sometimes reasons like that can help make your case stronger in court.
Yeah, I’m moving closer to family and it’ll help with childcare. I hope that makes a good argument.
@Eden
That should definitely help. Judges usually prioritize what’s best for the kids, so having family support nearby is a plus.