My husband’s ex currently has primary custody. In the middle of an argument where he confronted her about attendance issues (the children have both missed 7 days of school and been tardy for 35 this school year alone), she essentially told him to “mind his own business.” So he suggested hiring a mediator to address the attendance issue, to which she responded, “I’m not doing that. Also, consider this your 30-day notice; I’m moving,” without providing a new address or actual move date. I’m wondering if this violation is enough grounds for him to have a real chance at becoming the primary parent. There have been many other red flags on her end, including being arrested while their kids were in the car, getting into DV altercations with an ex-boyfriend in front of their daughter, and she actually got evicted a few months ago. I could keep going, but no one has time to read the chapter book this would become.
That sounds really concerning. The lack of notice and the previous issues definitely raise red flags. Has your husband documented everything?
Brianna said:
That sounds really concerning. The lack of notice and the previous issues definitely raise red flags. Has your husband documented everything?
Yes, he has been keeping notes of everything that happens.
In Virginia, the court usually takes custody arrangements seriously. If she’s not providing a new address, that could be an issue. Mediation is often encouraged.
Effie said:
In Virginia, the court usually takes custody arrangements seriously. If she’s not providing a new address, that could be an issue. Mediation is often encouraged.
Exactly. It seems like she’s not willing to cooperate at all.
Definitely get a lawyer involved if you haven’t already. They can provide the best advice given the situation.
Devan said:
Definitely get a lawyer involved if you haven’t already. They can provide the best advice given the situation.
We’re looking into that. It feels like we need all the help we can get.
Custody battles can be tough, but if there’s a pattern of behavior, it can help your husband’s case. Stay strong.
Wow, it sounds like she’s not thinking about the kids at all. I hope your husband can get the help he needs.
BRODY said:
Wow, it sounds like she’s not thinking about the kids at all. I hope your husband can get the help he needs.
Thanks, we really appreciate the support. It’s been a tough time.