When my husband and his wife divorced, she moved to the next state over (2hrs away from where they had been living). Since she is the primary parent, they have done court in that state. Now she’s moving again even further (roughly 3hrs). According to their parenting plan, they are to meet in the ‘middle.’ Two issues: She won’t give an exact address to ensure she’s being honest about a middle location. We have a newborn at home and can’t exactly have my husband out driving 6hrs total every weekend just because she keeps moving further away (not to mention the gas money, wear and tear on the vehicle, etc.). Would he be able to put in since she’s moving so far away she’s responsible for transportation or is he just SOL since she’s the primary?
That sounds really frustrating. Have you thought about consulting a family lawyer? They might have some advice on how to handle this situation.
In many cases, if the custodial parent moves significantly, it can be grounds to modify the agreement. You might have a case for revisiting the transportation responsibilities.
Meeting in the middle should be honored, but if she’s not providing an address, that complicates things. Is there a way to request that through the court?
I feel for you. It’s tough with a newborn. Maybe you could propose a schedule that reduces the driving between both of you?
Have you documented all the times she’s moved? That could help your case if you need to go to court about transportation issues.
You’re not SOL. Many people successfully negotiate changes when one parent moves far away. Just be prepared to present your case.
It sounds like she’s not being fair with the arrangement. Have you thought about mediation?
You might also want to check if there are any local parenting groups. They can provide support and advice from those who have been in similar situations.
Make sure you also understand your rights as a non-custodial parent. Sometimes the courts may favor the primary parent, but that doesn’t mean you have no say.
It’s surprising how many parents forget about the impact of distance. She should consider the time and resources it takes to make those drives.
If she keeps moving, maybe it’s time to revisit the entire parenting plan? Just a thought.
Have you tried to communicate your concerns directly with her? Sometimes a chat can help clear misunderstandings.
It’s good that you’re being proactive about this. Document everything and be ready for any legal discussions.
Good luck navigating this. You’re doing the right thing by looking for solutions.
Consider proposing a compromise where she drives more often since she’s moving further away. It might be reasonable to negotiate.
Many courts are understanding of these situations. If you can prove the undue burden, you may have a strong case.
Is there any mediation service you could use to help facilitate the discussions?
It’s tough enough co-parenting without added distance. You seem to be handling it well.
Have you considered reaching out to local family services for additional support?