Ex missed court-mandated mediation... what now?

My ex didn’t show up for the court-mandated mediation, but he claimed he was on his way just 10 minutes before the grace period ended. I was told he’d have to answer for this in court, and I get credit for showing up. I have a court date in December to discuss child support, spousal support, and custody. Should I bring up everything I wanted to discuss in mediation? Things have changed since the divorce filings, and he hasn’t been involved. Plus, he hasn’t even filed a response to my filings. Any advice would help!

If he didn’t show, expect the court to give him another chance for mediation. Sounds like he’s trying to drag this out.

In court, definitely bring up all your points. The judge will want to know what you’re proposing since he skipped mediation.

Show up prepared with a complete order on how you think things should be. If you look reasonable, the judge might give you some leeway.

Ken said:
Show up prepared with a complete order on how you think things should be. If you look reasonable, the judge might give you some leeway.

Thanks! I have everything written out, including future plans like sports and braces. Should I try to discuss this with my ex before court?

The court might schedule another mediation session after your next hearing. They’ll want to stress the importance of attending.

If you can, reach out to your ex with your ideas. It could save you both time in court, but be cautious—he may still resist.