Please help. The divorce was finalized years ago, but he’s trying to get out of child support by saying my pay went up and his went down. He’s a business owner who makes a ton of money and is lying. I’ve gone out of my way to co-parent as friends and lift up his girlfriend as a stepmom. This bordered on stalking, I believe, and he involved our son. I’m wondering what my next step is after he filed a motion to modify with two lies. Do I just let this play out? Or do I file something else? HELP! I want my kids away from this craziness and back to normal! Update: Thank you all for your advice. I’ve read everyone’s comments, and they are helpful. I’m still in shock that this happened. Tomorrow, I plan on filing a response and another motion requesting an amendment to the parenting plan or temporary orders. I’m going to ask that significant others are no longer allowed to be involved in drop-off or pick-up unless by explicit previous agreement and that communications are now through official channels only. I will attach the videos as evidence and let the court reach their own conclusions about what happened.
Keep a lawyer on retainer. He sounds narcissistic.
I’m pretty sure he can’t serve the papers. Regardless, you shouldn’t have answered the door seeing him there. Let a real server come.
No one capes harder for a deadbeat dad than his desperate new girlfriend. Wishing you the best!
According to what I found, anyone over the age of 18 who isn’t involved with the case can serve you the paperwork.
As an attorney, I can say that this isn’t proper service in my state. If he improperly served you, consider doing nothing until properly served.
He served you. It’s annoying but it happens. Hire an attorney or file responsive paperwork yourself and provide all the evidence you have.
Your ex may have reduced his salary to lower his child support. Contact an attorney to request a review of his business records.
Have your lawyer request his tax returns and any financial statements as proof that he’s lying.
Focus on your kid and stop trying to lift up his girlfriend. You need to get legal representation.
At 13, your son is old enough to start learning who his father is. That doesn’t mean you badmouth him, just let him realize the truth.
Is your son in therapy? It may be a good thing for him to talk to someone neutral to process his feelings.
Sometimes, that means parallel parenting rather than letting your ex stomp all over you.
I would get a lawyer now. Something about involving the girlfriend pangs me the wrong way.
I thought she did. I haven’t had issues in all these years. This is extremely disappointing.
Recording seems like a smart thing to do.
Show that to the court. No judge will appreciate involving the children in legal issues.
The kids become weapons when people get vengeful.
Get an attorney ASAP. If he wants to reexamine finances, go all in.
Get a lawyer, and make sure it’s a good one. You’ll want them to get all of his personal and business financial records.