Ex took baby out of state before temp order hearing... what can I do?

My soon-to-be ex-husband took our baby out of North Carolina without notifying me or getting my consent during his visitation week. He left our 18-month-old with his parents in New Jersey and returned to NC. It’s been about two weeks since I’ve had any contact with my son. His parents have stopped responding to my messages and calls for about a week now. I’ve hired an attorney, but I can’t get a temporary hearing anytime soon. Law enforcement won’t help me retrieve my baby since it’s considered a civil issue. Has anyone gone through something similar? Because of my military obligations, driving to NJ to get my son isn’t an option, and I’m not even sure if his parents are at home. Please help.

That sounds really stressful. Have you considered filing an emergency motion? Sometimes courts will act quickly in these cases.

Valerie said:
That sounds really stressful. Have you considered filing an emergency motion? Sometimes courts will act quickly in these cases.

I haven’t yet, but I’ll talk to my attorney about it. Thanks for the suggestion!

I went through something similar when my ex tried to take our kids out of state. Document everything and keep trying to reach law enforcement. They may help if it escalates.

Misha said:
I went through something similar when my ex tried to take our kids out of state. Document everything and keep trying to reach law enforcement. They may help if it escalates.

I’m documenting everything. Just frustrating that I can’t get any help right now.

This is so unfair. Have you tried contacting a local family services agency in NJ? They might be able to help you find out where your son is.

Derry said:
This is so unfair. Have you tried contacting a local family services agency in NJ? They might be able to help you find out where your son is.

I haven’t thought of that, but I will definitely look into it. Thank you!

It’s definitely a civil issue, but if you can prove he’s violating any court orders, that might change things. Keep pushing for that hearing!

Corinne said:
It’s definitely a civil issue, but if you can prove he’s violating any court orders, that might change things. Keep pushing for that hearing!

Yes, I’m hoping my attorney can help me find a way to prove that.

If you’re able to contact his parents, try sending a formal letter stating your concerns. Sometimes a written request can prompt a response.

Solis said:
If you’re able to contact his parents, try sending a formal letter stating your concerns. Sometimes a written request can prompt a response.

That’s a good idea. I’ll draft something and see if that gets their attention.