Hey folks, I’m in a bit of a situation here. My ex-husband and I agreed to move back to our hometown for the 3-5 year duration of his work contract, but now he wants me to sign a legal document agreeing to move wherever he gets his next job after that. I’m really uncomfortable with this since I don’t know what life will look like in 5 years. Our child will be 12 then and will have friends and stability here. Can the court really compel me to commit to this? Any thoughts?
If your ex is usually reasonable, this probably comes from insecurity rather than a desire to control you. But it might help to nudge him to see how impractical his suggestion is.
Absolutely do not sign anything. You’ve already agreed enough for the next 3-5 years. You may end up in a new relationship, and they won’t want to follow your ex around.
You have main custody, and he convinced you to move for HIS job? This isn’t about your kid; it’s about what’s easier for him. Maybe get some therapy because he seems to still be controlling you.
Never sign something uncertain without a clear benefit for you. What if his next job is in an inconvenient place? Just hold your ground.
Do NOT sign. It might not be enforceable, but by signing, you could unintentionally give up custody rights later. Just stick to your original plan.
Do not sign anything. Execute your plan as you see fit; he can decide his next steps without binding you.
Absolutely no strings attached when moving to your hometown. You can work with him to ensure your kid sees him without committing to future uncertainties.
Think about what happens if you remarry and have kids. You shouldn’t be uprooted for this. It’s not fair to your child to be forced into instability.
This is not a thing, and your child will eventually be able to travel alone. Plus, it sounds manipulative of your ex to even ask for this.
He’s asking you to commit to his career over your own and your son’s stability. Consult an attorney if needed, but this feels legal and unenforceable.
Make him consult an attorney first. This isn’t enforceable. Wait until he has a proper legal contract before considering signing anything.
No, it’s just a way for him to control you. Stand firm on not signing anything.
The courts won’t compel such a move. Don’t let him pressure you into something you don’t want.
What if you marry someone new and can’t leave? This isn’t fair to you or your child, and you should get advice on establishing boundaries.
The court won’t compel you. If you agree to this, you could be forced to move. Stand your ground on your child’s stability.
Just because he wants that doesn’t mean you should comply. Hold firm and let him know you have the responsibility for your child’s stability.
That’s really manipulative. Don’t let him control your future plans.