I’m struggling right now. My divorce has been final for over a year, and I lost custody because I was a stay-at-home mom. My ex earns a lot and hired a better lawyer. My teenage daughter decided she needed a ‘no contact’ period with me when she was 14, and now at 17, she says she doesn’t see me as her mom anymore. It’s been heartbreaking. I’ve tried reaching out to my ex for help with reconciling, but he refuses. Now my son, who’s 14, is being encouraged to distance himself from me too. I feel like I’m being alienated, and I’m not sure what to do. I can’t meet my ex alone, and the courts seem to ignore what’s happening. I’m at a loss and need advice on whether I should keep fighting for my kids or just let go.
This sounds so painful. Have you thought about getting a therapist for yourself? It might help you process everything.
I’m really sorry you’re going through this. It does sound like your ex is trying to alienate you. Have you looked into legal options like a modification of custody?
It’s tough, but don’t give up. Document everything that’s happening. If you can find a way to show the court how your ex is influencing the kids, it might help.
Oakley said:
It’s tough, but don’t give up. Document everything that’s happening. If you can find a way to show the court how your ex is influencing the kids, it might help.
Yeah, keeping a record could be useful! Even small things could show the pattern.
I know it’s hard, but your kids are still young. Just because they’re teens doesn’t mean you can’t fight for your relationship.
Have you tried talking to a legal aid clinic? They might be able to help you find a pro-bono lawyer in your area.