My ex is going to be in prison until my kids are grown, and I’m really worried about what might happen if anything were to happen to me. I want to make sure that my ex’s family can’t try to take my kids from my husband. It’s been about 10 years since my ex and his family have been involved in their lives, and my kids are now 15 and 13. My ex has some serious charges against him, but he’s not convicted yet, so maybe I’m overthinking this…
You’re definitely right to think about this now. If your ex’s parental rights are still intact, his family could potentially try to step in. Getting those rights terminated might be a good step.
Octavia said:
You’re definitely right to think about this now. If your ex’s parental rights are still intact, his family could potentially try to step in. Getting those rights terminated might be a good step.
That makes sense. Would my husband need to adopt them after that, or can he do it without terminating my ex’s rights first?
In North Carolina, it’s usually required to terminate parental rights before adoption can happen. If your ex is in prison and has no contact with the kids, that might work in your favor.
Rylan said:
In North Carolina, it’s usually required to terminate parental rights before adoption can happen. If your ex is in prison and has no contact with the kids, that might work in your favor.
Got it. I just want to make sure everything is done right so my husband can have full rights.
I’d recommend talking to a family lawyer about this. They’ll know the ins and outs of the law and can help you figure out the best way forward.
Anastasia said:
I’d recommend talking to a family lawyer about this. They’ll know the ins and outs of the law and can help you figure out the best way forward.
Definitely going to do that. I just want peace of mind for my kids.
Your kids have lived with you and your husband for so long; that should count for a lot. Just keep records of their lives with you two—it could help if things go to court.
Tessa said:
Your kids have lived with you and your husband for so long; that should count for a lot. Just keep records of their lives with you two—it could help if things go to court.
Thanks for the tip! I’ve been keeping a journal about their activities and milestones.
It’s good you’re planning ahead. Just remember, the court will always prioritize the best interests of the kids. Staying involved and demonstrating stability will work in your favor.
Erin said:
It’s good you’re planning ahead. Just remember, the court will always prioritize the best interests of the kids. Staying involved and demonstrating stability will work in your favor.
That’s reassuring to hear. I just want what’s best for them.