My girlfriend and I are breaking up, but we have three kids. I want to know how we can go about this so that way we can both have rights to see our kids, but we can’t handle it between the both of us since we can’t stand the sight of each other. Any advice or tips on how to deal with this?
Wow, that sounds really tough. I’d suggest you both start thinking about a custody arrangement, especially if you can’t talk things through. A court might help you establish something formal if you’re struggling to agree. IDK if you’ve already done that, but it could help in the long run.
@Cecilia
Yeah, if you can’t communicate, court might be your best bet. They’ll probably want a formal parenting plan too, which could make things clearer for everyone.
Sadie said:
@Cecilia
Yeah, if you can’t communicate, court might be your best bet. They’ll probably want a formal parenting plan too, which could make things clearer for everyone.
Exactly, mediation can help too, even if you don’t get along. Sometimes it helps to get a neutral party involved to work through things.
I’m in a similar situation, and going through mediation really helped. It’s way less stressful than a full court hearing.
Amaya said:
I’m in a similar situation, and going through mediation really helped. It’s way less stressful than a full court hearing.
I didn’t even think of mediation… how did that work for you?
@Rene
It was pretty smooth, actually. They just helped us agree on a schedule without much drama. The court recommended it before we went to a full hearing.
I agree with others. A parenting plan is super important. It lays out everything clearly so there’s no confusion later on. And yeah, court orders can always be changed if things change.
Rose said:
I agree with others. A parenting plan is super important. It lays out everything clearly so there’s no confusion later on. And yeah, court orders can always be changed if things change.
Got it, thanks! I just want to make sure my kids are okay through all this.
It’s a tough situation for sure. If you can’t talk face-to-face, a lawyer might be helpful to guide you through the process and make sure your rights are protected.
Blair said:
It’s a tough situation for sure. If you can’t talk face-to-face, a lawyer might be helpful to guide you through the process and make sure your rights are protected.
I’ve been thinking about hiring a lawyer. It’s a lot to handle on my own right now.
I hear you. Going through a breakup while dealing with kids is so hard. If you both want to keep seeing the kids, a clear custody agreement will be key. Just make sure it’s something you both can follow.
@Clara
Exactly! If you’re both on the same page, it’ll make life easier, even if you don’t get along.