How do I start the process to get full custody of my kids?

Custody and Visitation Forum
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I’m in Washington State and want to file for full custody of my two kids. Their mom moved to Hawaii a year ago and has been trying to stop me from seeing them. She doesn’t have stability—she moves from house to house, doesn’t have a job, and parties all the time. I’m really concerned about their well-being and just want to make sure they’re safe. Where do I even start with this?

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The first step would be filing a Petition for Child Custody in the state where your kids currently live. Have you done that yet?

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Keegan said:
The first step would be filing a Petition for Child Custody in the state where your kids currently live. Have you done that yet?

Not yet. Honestly, I don’t even know where to start, and it feels overwhelming. Any advice?

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@Aubrey
Totally understandable. You’ll need to file in Hawaii since that’s where your kids live now. Maybe start by contacting a local lawyer there.

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Since you’re on the birth certificate, you have legal standing to file for custody. Do you have any evidence of her instability?

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Lorelei said:
Since you’re on the birth certificate, you have legal standing to file for custody. Do you have any evidence of her instability?

I don’t have a ton of evidence, just what I know about her lifestyle. Would that be enough?

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@Aubrey
It helps if you can gather things like text messages, social media posts, or witness statements. That’ll strengthen your case.

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It’s great that you’re stepping up for your kids. Have you thought about hiring a lawyer to guide you through this?

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PhantomPhantom said:
It’s great that you’re stepping up for your kids. Have you thought about hiring a lawyer to guide you through this?

I’m willing to spend all my savings to hire a good lawyer. I just want what’s best for my kids.

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@Aubrey
That’s the right mindset. A lawyer can help you navigate everything and make sure your concerns are clearly presented to the court.

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Courts usually prioritize the kids’ best interest. Do you have a stable environment to offer them?

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Finley said:
Courts usually prioritize the kids’ best interest. Do you have a stable environment to offer them?

Yes, I have a steady job and a safe home. I can provide for them without any issues.

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@Aubrey
That’s perfect. Make sure you emphasize that during the custody process. Stability is a big factor for the courts.

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If she’s threatening to keep the kids away, document that too. Courts take alienation attempts seriously.

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Baylee said:
If she’s threatening to keep the kids away, document that too. Courts take alienation attempts seriously.

Good point. I’ll start keeping track of everything she says and does that might show that.

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@Aubrey
That’s a smart move. The more evidence you have, the better. Best of luck with everything!