My ex left my son and I a few months ago after he lost his job. He chose to leave, he was staying at his mother’s house but she kicked him out and he is now homeless. He hasn’t contacted me since he left, hasn’t called and asked about our son. I’ve been the breadwinner from the start and I can take care of us just fine, but I could really use some help and support for medical. I really don’t want to put him on child support at all. He is without a job and who knows when or if he’ll get another one. He owes his ex-wife child support for his daughter and child support for his son.
I totally get where you’re coming from. If you apply for state assistance, they usually do require child support to be established, even if he’s not working right now. Have you thought about what you’d do if that happens?
It’s tough because you want the help but don’t want to put more stress on him. IDK if there’s a way around it, but it might be worth checking with a local legal aid office to see what options you have.
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Yeah, I think I might do that. I just don’t want to complicate things more.
I had a similar situation. When I applied for assistance, they did put my ex on child support even though he was unemployed. It can be frustrating, I know.
You might want to consider what’s best for your son in the long run. If he’s not involved now, it could be better for you to get the assistance you need without worrying about child support.
Palmer said:
You might want to consider what’s best for your son in the long run. If he’s not involved now, it could be better for you to get the assistance you need without worrying about child support.
That’s true. I just wish things were different, you know?
Just a heads up, if he’s already behind on child support for his other kids, that could complicate things too. They might not even pursue it right now since he’s unemployed.
Make sure to document everything. If you decide to go for assistance, having a clear record can help if things get complicated later.