I’m really struggling with the custody arrangement with my ex. He spends a lot more time with the kids while I’m the one being asked for more financial support, even though I earn double and live in subsidized housing. Is it common for a mother to demand through court that the father has the kids every Tuesday and Friday to Sunday each week? This leaves him with only one weekend off a month, and even then, he has them from Friday to Saturday until 7 PM, so he really gets just one full day without them. Meanwhile, I have every weekend completely free. On top of that, I collect all the government child benefits, demanded two years of back child support, and expect him to pay $1,500 in legal fees. It feels so unbalanced. Is this typical?
Some parents fight over who GETS to spend more time with the kids and some fight over who HAS to spend more time. I feel bad for your kids.
So you’re mad that you get to spend weekends with your kids instead of being able to go out? And demanding back child support isn’t a bad thing.
It’s not fair that she has so little time with the kids but still expects more support. The kids deserve quality time with both parents.
Yeah, he only gets one weekend OFF a month. Sounds like he wants more time off.
I think it sounds unfair. You’re the primary parent based on actual hours with the kids. A 2-2-3 schedule might be better for both parents.
She can demand whatever she wants. It’s up to the dad to decide what he agrees to, and if they can’t agree, a judge decides what is fair.
Support is based on overnights. Since he has less time, he pays.
He can change the schedule if he wants more time. Also, he should contact the CRA about splitting the benefits.