So a bit of background—I’ve (25F) never met my father. I know who he is and where he lives, but my mom (47F) always said he’s not interested in being a dad. Apparently, he paid her off to get an abortion, but she didn’t go through with it. I remember going to the courthouse when I was younger for a DNA test that confirmed my sisters’ father isn’t mine, so I know who my dad is. Now I’m starting to think there might be some legal stuff going on, like maybe he signed away his rights or there’s some NDA about their affair. Asking my mom just leads to dead ends, and he hasn’t responded to any of my attempts to reach out. What can I do legally to figure out what’s really happening?
Honestly, he might not be interested in talking to you now, even though you’re grown. But if you really want to meet him, maybe try reaching out in a public place like a coffee shop. Just be prepared for the possibility of rejection.
I think you already know what’s going on. He probably didn’t want to be a dad then, and it seems like he still doesn’t. I know it sounds harsh, but sometimes you can’t force someone to be involved in your life.
Have you thought about looking for legal help? A lawyer could potentially help you understand your rights and what steps you can take.
It’s tough when you feel like you have no control over the situation. Just remember, you can’t make someone want to be a part of your life if they don’t. Focus on yourself and what makes you happy.
I totally get where you’re coming from. Have you tried using a private investigator? They might be able to dig up more information on your dad’s situation.