My fiancée has primary physical custody of her two daughters in Virginia, and we’ve recently got some outstanding job offers in another state that would boost our income. The custody agreement is pretty straightforward, saying she has primary custody while we share joint legal custody. The thing is, the girls’ father usually isn’t very stable, and I know he’s not gonna like the idea of us moving. I’m just wondering what rights my fiancée has regarding moving the girls out of state. He hasn’t been consistent in his support or even having a stable living situation for years. What kind of hurdles should we be prepared for with this move? The girls are thrilled and just got the news, which makes this even more exciting for us. Thanks for any advice you can give us
Wow, sounds like a big change. Since you have a court order, you might need to file for permission to move with the kids. They’ll probably want to know how it affects their relationship with their dad, even if he’s not stable. Has there been discussion about how to handle visits?
@Ana
That’s a good point. I think having clear visitations would definitely help. The girls really want to keep seeing their dad, but honestly, his consistency is a problem.
Echo said: @Ana
That’s a good point. I think having clear visitations would definitely help. The girls really want to keep seeing their dad, but honestly, his consistency is a problem.
Yeah, that makes sense. It’s tough dealing with parents who are not stable. Maybe virtual visits could work while you sort everything out?
Since he has a history with DWI and isn’t stable, you might actually have a stronger case to move than someone in a different situation. Just keep records of everything regarding his support and living conditions. That might help you argue your case if he fights it.
Echo said: @Kimberly
That’s reassuring to hear. Keeping everything documented sounds like a smart move, even if it feels overwhelming.
For sure, record keeping can really help. I’d also check in with a family law attorney in Virginia to see what your options are once you’re ready to file.
Don’t forget to prepare for a counter from him. Sometimes parents get really emotional about changes like this, especially if they feel they’re losing time with their kids. Make sure you have a plan for what happens if he contests the move.
@Kimberly
That’s totally true. We’re ready for a bit of a fight, especially since he may not want to see the girls go. Just keeping everything fair for the girls is what matters.
Since the girls are older, their opinions might carry some weight. If they’re excited about moving, it could help sway the court in your favor. It’s worth mentioning their reaction to the judge, right?
Make sure to check out the specific laws about custody and moving in Virginia. Each state can have slightly different rules. Just for peace of mind, are you thinking of consulting a lawyer?
Jess said:
Make sure to check out the specific laws about custody and moving in Virginia. Each state can have slightly different rules. Just for peace of mind, are you thinking of consulting a lawyer?
Yes, we definitely plan to consult someone once we get everything sorted out on our end. Thanks for the reminder.
