I’m dealing with a really tough situation right now. My ex-husband keeps taking my daughter to my estranged mother’s house, and I’m super worried. My mom is saying awful things to my daughter, like ‘Mommy doesn’t love you’ and ‘Your little brother should have died in the NICU.’ It’s heartbreaking to think that my mom is poisoning my daughter against me. I have full parental responsibility, so I thought I had more control over this, but it feels like I’m losing my grip. The family crisis therapist told me to just get over my issues with my mom and to bend to my ex-husband’s wishes because apparently, my daughter needs all the family she can get. They say everything my mother does is normal. I just don’t know what to do anymore… is this just my life now?
That sounds really tough… I can’t believe your mom would say those things. Have you thought about talking to a lawyer about your ex taking her there?
Tessa said:
That sounds really tough… I can’t believe your mom would say those things. Have you thought about talking to a lawyer about your ex taking her there?
I haven’t yet, but I feel like I should. IDK if it would even help though.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s not normal for a grandparent to talk like that. Have you tried setting boundaries with your ex?
Ridley said:
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s not normal for a grandparent to talk like that. Have you tried setting boundaries with your ex?
I’ve tried, but he just ignores me. It’s all so frustrating.
@KyleOwen1
That’s so frustrating. Have you thought about documenting everything? It might help if you decide to take legal action.
Honestly, it sounds like you need to protect your daughter from that toxicity. Maybe find another therapist who understands family dynamics better?
Ripley said:
Honestly, it sounds like you need to protect your daughter from that toxicity. Maybe find another therapist who understands family dynamics better?
That’s a good idea. I’ve been thinking about that too. The current therapist just doesn’t get it.
I can’t believe they told you to bend to your ex. That’s not right. You deserve to have your voice heard! Keep fighting for your daughter.
Westin said:
I can’t believe they told you to bend to your ex. That’s not right. You deserve to have your voice heard! Keep fighting for your daughter.
Thank you… it really helps to hear that. I just feel so lost.
I’ve heard of situations like this before. It might help to talk to a support group. Sometimes sharing with others helps clarify things.
Caitlin said:
I’ve heard of situations like this before. It might help to talk to a support group. Sometimes sharing with others helps clarify things.
That might be worth a shot. I just want to do what’s best for my daughter.
@KyleOwen1
Definitely! Just remember, you’re not alone in this. Keep reaching out for support.