My ex, the father of my children, and I broke up more than 5 months ago due to domestic violence. He always had a close friend who I also became close with, as I was also his wife’s bestie at that time. He messaged me today at 5 in the morning, which I found strange. I know my ex was at his place a night ago, so he probably was talking about our upcoming hearing. He then texted me, ‘do not tell anyone I gave you this information,’ and ‘file for an emergency ex parte,’ and gave me a number to call. He also said to postpone the hearing so that I can prepare better and mentioned something about how there are better attorneys than the one I previously had. I’m so confused about what he is really trying to tell me because I know it took a lot for him to basically betray his friend that he has known from childhood. I tried asking him if he is telling me this because my ex told him he was planning on doing anything or because he was getting worse and he doesn’t want the kids to be with him. Their dad has a history of drug addiction and domestic violence, was diagnosed with many mental illnesses, and was hearing voices before I left him. Why do you guys think his friend would tell me this? Should I trust it? I do trust his friend; he has always had my back through all the abuse. He would try to help me and would tell him that he was wrong for abusing me. Ugh, WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK My mom has been telling me there’s something going on. She feels there’s something that his family is doing to try and take my kids from me so he can have them. His enabling mother is paying for his attorney.
It sounds like his friend is genuinely trying to help you, especially if he has always had your back. Maybe he knows something serious and is trying to warn you.
Aurora said:
It sounds like his friend is genuinely trying to help you, especially if he has always had your back. Maybe he knows something serious and is trying to warn you.
I agree. He wouldn’t risk his friendship if he didn’t think it was important.
@Andi
That’s true. It just feels so sudden and out of the blue.
@Andi
Sometimes people act urgently when they know something is very wrong.
Aurora said:
It sounds like his friend is genuinely trying to help you, especially if he has always had your back. Maybe he knows something serious and is trying to warn you.
Is there a way you can verify the information he gave you without alerting your ex?
@Cal
I’ll have to think about how to do that discreetly.
@Cal
You might want to contact that number he gave you and see what they say.
It might be a good idea to consult your lawyer about this new information.
Dane said:
It might be a good idea to consult your lawyer about this new information.
Definitely. Your lawyer can help you decide the best course of action.
Dane said:
It might be a good idea to consult your lawyer about this new information.
Definitely. Your lawyer can help you decide the best course of action.
Yes, I’ll definitely bring this up with my lawyer.
Dane said:
It might be a good idea to consult your lawyer about this new information.
Definitely. Your lawyer can help you decide the best course of action.
Good call. They can help you navigate this situation carefully.
Dane said:
It might be a good idea to consult your lawyer about this new information.
Make sure to document everything. Every text, every piece of advice.
Dane said:
It might be a good idea to consult your lawyer about this new information.
Make sure to document everything. Every text, every piece of advice.
I’ve been keeping records, but it’s a lot to handle.
Dane said:
It might be a good idea to consult your lawyer about this new information.
Make sure to document everything. Every text, every piece of advice.
Try to stay organized. It will help you in the long run.
Given the history, his friend might be genuinely concerned about you and your kids’ safety.
Luna said:
Given the history, his friend might be genuinely concerned about you and your kids’ safety.
Yes, especially if he knows your ex’s current state of mind.
Luna said:
Given the history, his friend might be genuinely concerned about you and your kids’ safety.
Yes, especially if he knows your ex’s current state of mind.
I hope so. He has been a good friend through all of this.
Luna said:
Given the history, his friend might be genuinely concerned about you and your kids’ safety.
Yes, especially if he knows your ex’s current state of mind.
Trust your instincts. If you feel he’s trustworthy, it’s worth considering his advice.
Luna said:
Given the history, his friend might be genuinely concerned about you and your kids’ safety.
Maybe your mom’s intuition is right. Keep an eye out for anything suspicious.