Need advice on leaving my husband with our son

Seeking Advice
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I want to leave my husband with our son (within state lines but 300 miles away). My husband has a history of alcohol abuse. He was sober for several years, but has relapsed. He was arrested for battery yesterday. I’m ok physically, really, but the things he said to me nobody should ever have to hear from the one they love. When he drinks, he gets angry. He hits furniture. He shoved me. That’s as violent as he’s gotten in almost 11 years. This happened in the early morning. I learned that he had driven drunk to the local casino and back. This is a normal occurrence when he drinks. He drives. It’s a miracle he’s never hurt anyone. He has had 4 DUIs.

I don’t plan on giving him another chance until he proves to me that he is not going to drink again. We have a 6-year-old together. Am I within my rights to move 300 miles away to my parents’ house with our son for our own safety? What do I have to do to make this happen? I saw some things online that made me second-guess this decision, such as that I may need his permission, or to notify him in writing, etc. His court date for this incident is on Wednesday. I plan to be gone with our son by then.

Please someone help me. I have no idea what I’m doing! All I know is that I’ve been in a motel for 2 days waiting for him to go to work so I can go home and pack our stuff. ANY advice is welcome here. How do I remove us from this situation the right way? Where do I start?

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First of all, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Your safety and your child’s safety are the most important things. You absolutely have the right to leave if you feel threatened.

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You should definitely consult with a family law attorney before making any moves. They can help you understand your rights and the best way to protect yourself and your son.

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Alison said:
You should definitely consult with a family law attorney before making any moves. They can help you understand your rights and the best way to protect yourself and your son.

Thanks! I’ll look for someone nearby. I just want to make sure I do this the right way.

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Document everything. Keep records of any incidents and his behavior. This will help if you need to prove your case later.

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You don’t need his permission to leave, especially if you feel unsafe. Just make sure to take essential documents and belongings.

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Cairo said:
You don’t need his permission to leave, especially if you feel unsafe. Just make sure to take essential documents and belongings.

I will! I’m just so worried about what he might do when he finds out.

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Consider reaching out to a local domestic violence hotline. They can provide resources and support for your situation.

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Adler said:
Consider reaching out to a local domestic violence hotline. They can provide resources and support for your situation.

That’s a great idea! I’ll do that right now.