Hey folks,
I’m at a point where I know it’s time to end my marriage, but I’m struggling with how to break the news to my husband. I want to be honest and kind, but I also need to be clear. If anyone’s been through this or has some advice, I’d really appreciate it.
Thanks for the support.
I went through this with my ex-wife and got to the point where I was just sick of being miserable because that’s not who I normally would be… I kept putting it off and telling myself things would change, and they never did. Basically what you need to do is tell him look this is what it is and it’s not going to change. We need to come up with a solution as to what our exit plan looks like. I don’t totally hate you and I’m willing to work with you on things but this is happening and I want to be perfectly clear on that. If you’re willing to work with me, I’ll be reasonable. If you’re going to fight me on this, then I’m not going to go out of my way to make this as easy on you. Basically you need to let him know he’s got an option between the easy way and the hard way of dealing with this but in the end he’s going to have to deal with this because you aren’t going to allow yourself to be miserable because of him anymore
Give yourself some time to breathe. It just blew up in your world. After that, consult with a lawyer before speaking with your spouse. Locate someone with whom you click. That is all you need to do at this time; step one is to breathe. That is step 2. Steps 1 and 2