Just like the title says, I’m wanting to divorce my husband. We share three kids together, ranging from ages 8 months to 3 years. I’m a stay-at-home mom with no income, literally no money to my name at all. We live in Kansas, but my family is in Texas, and that’s where I plan to move to once I leave. My questions are: will I have to file for divorce in Kansas, or can I do that in Texas? Also, would I have to tell my husband I’m leaving with the kids before I do? I’m really worried he’ll try to stop me because every time I mention leaving, he says I can go but without the kids. He also claims he’ll fight for full custody. Is it possible that the court would allow him that? He says he has a job and the rental is under his name, so there’s enough space for them. I have nothing, and if I move back with my parents, my kids and I would have to share a room for now.
That sounds really tough. I can imagine how overwhelmed you must feel. You should definitely consult a lawyer to understand your options better.
Nyx said:
That sounds really tough. I can imagine how overwhelmed you must feel. You should definitely consult a lawyer to understand your options better.
Yeah, a lawyer could really help clarify things for you. I think it’s important to know your rights, especially regarding custody.
@Ximena
What do you mean by knowing your rights? Is there a way to find a lawyer who specializes in custody cases?
Onyx said:
@Ximena
What do you mean by knowing your rights? Is there a way to find a lawyer who specializes in custody cases?
You can look up legal aid services in your area; they often have resources for people with no income. They could help you figure out where to file for divorce too.
You might want to file in Kansas since that’s where you currently live. But if you move to Texas, you can also file there later. Just be careful about moving without letting him know first.
Campbell said:
You might want to file in Kansas since that’s where you currently live. But if you move to Texas, you can also file there later. Just be careful about moving without letting him know first.
Yeah, I’ve heard that moving kids can complicate things. You should probably document everything if you can, just in case.
@Adley
Document what? Like conversations or something?
MrSuits said:
@Adley
Document what? Like conversations or something?
Exactly, keep a record of what he says about custody and everything. It could help if things get messy.
It might not be easy, but you can fight for custody too. A lot depends on what’s best for the kids, and being a stay-at-home mom is also a big factor.
Denver said:
It might not be easy, but you can fight for custody too. A lot depends on what’s best for the kids, and being a stay-at-home mom is also a big factor.
I’ve heard that courts usually favor the parent who’s been more involved with the kids. Just stay strong and focus on what’s best for them.
@Dorothy
What do you mean by being involved? Like spending more time with them?
Samantha said:
@Dorothy
What do you mean by being involved? Like spending more time with them?
Yeah, exactly. If you’ve been the one taking care of them mostly, that counts a lot in custody situations.
You deserve to feel safe and secure, especially for your kids. Make sure to think about what’s best for them during this tough time. Have you talked to anyone else in your family about this?
Gloria said:
You deserve to feel safe and secure, especially for your kids. Make sure to think about what’s best for them during this tough time. Have you talked to anyone else in your family about this?
That’s a good idea. Family can provide support during rough times. Just make sure you have a plan before making any moves.
@Remy
What kind of plan do you think she should have? Like financial or something?