So my baby daddy and I have to communicate through a court-ordered app, but he keeps accusing me of being on drugs and bringing guys around my 7-month-old son. These are all lies. He currently has supervised visits and a step-up agreement for every other weekend. Last night, I went out to dinner and had a cocktail, which he found out about through a friend’s Instagram story. He got furious and accused me of neglecting the baby. My mom babysits for me. It’s getting super overwhelming dealing with him. He’s only paying me $900 for child support because during mediation he claimed he was unemployed, but now he says he’s not going to give me 20% of his income and threatens that if I send him back to court, he’ll ask for 50/50 custody. He works out of Texas in the oil refineries. What should I watch out for or what should I do?
Ignore all messages that are not about your child. If he keeps harassing you, he’ll face consequences because those apps prevent messages from being removed. The judge will see everything. Forward everything to your lawyer and let them decide when to file a motion. Also, doubt he’s not paying taxes. File a complaint stating he’s lying about his employment and request an income check.
He’s doing all this through the court-monitored app? Just let him dig his own grave. You don’t need to respond to his nonsense.
You should only communicate about visits. Document all his messages. If he continues with threats, that could be harassment.
Document everything. His behavior shows he’s unhinged. You’re allowed to have a social life, and he can’t control that. Respond only to direct questions about your child.
50/50 custody isn’t standard in Texas. He can’t just demand it without proof. Stick to your guns and don’t let him intimidate you.
You’re not doing anything wrong. He’s just jealous you’re moving on. Keep your conversations child-focused.