Iowa
My ex, 38M, and I, 31F, have a 7-year-old daughter. She’s a bright, goofy kid, but she’s recently told me some things about dad that she should have told me a long time ago.
I’m not blaming her, but it makes it harder with police wanting to SEE the infraction happening. Maybe they’ll take my 7-year-old’s word for it.
He’s been drinking and driving with her in the car. Busch Light is his poison. I truly believe he’s about 37% beer at any given point.
Here comes the meat of the story.
I divorced him right after having our daughter because his alcoholism was OUT OF CONTROL, and I needed to keep us all safe.
He was granted supervised overnights, and now I’m wondering what I can do to stop it from happening because it doesn’t matter if he’s with his wife, his friends, or just him, he still drinks with her—which he’s not allowed to do, as stated in the original custody agreement.
His wife breeds dogs. Do I need to say more? Yes, yes I do. They’re big. They’re Great Danes, and she has anywhere from 4-20 at any given time. The house they bought has been eaten. YES. Eaten by the dogs. Cupboards, tables, chairs, torn apart. Curtains, windows, drywall from the shoulder down, GONE. They have no plumbing, toilet, water, heat. His wife lost custody of her 2 girls last year due to the dog mess.
They’re living in a camper trailer in the front yard of their house, with a space heater and… dogs.
We’ve had no child support for 2 months. Yes, I called child support recovery. However—and here’s the kicker—his feet are messed up. Like, athlete’s foot and gout and majorly cracked heels and a skin infection all wrapped up in his socks. He can’t stand without his feet bleeding.
He didn’t spend time with her for the first 2 years of life and has probably spent a month’s worth of time with her, collectively.
What can I do?! What would you do? What the hell!