Separated Husband Won't Give Daughter Back... what can I do?

Seeking Advice
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I’m separated from my husband and we have a 10-month-old daughter together. We had an informal co-parenting arrangement where I had her from 7:30 to about 5 every day while he had her at night since I work overnight. This has been working fine for the past few months, but now things have taken a turn. I noticed some minor bruises on her legs the last time I had her and didn’t think much of it at first. I mentioned them to my mother-in-law when she picked her up. Then, on Sunday night, my husband told me there are bruises all over her and that I can’t keep her overnight anymore. I was really caught off guard by this accusation. Now he says he won’t give her back to me at all, and I haven’t seen her since Friday. I’ve been trying to figure out how to get her back and I’m really worried about her safety.

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I think you should call CPS. Also, check if he’s taken her to the doctor for the bruises. Those could have medical explanations.

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You can file on your own to get things started. Look into that.

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I’ve seen similar situations. My granddaughter’s bio dad kept her for a weekend visit and it turned into a year. Don’t think that hiring an expensive lawyer will speed things up. You can file for emergency custody pro se, which means without a lawyer.

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@Winter
That’s helpful. What should I do first?

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Tabitha said:
@Winter
That’s helpful. What should I do first?

Start by documenting everything. Write down your conversations and any marks you’ve noticed. Contact domestic relations or women’s advocacy groups for guidance.

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Maybe he’s trying to protect her too. It’s important to find a friend who can help mediate communication while you wait for legal advice.

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You really need a court order for custody. Consider getting a restraining order if necessary.

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I recommend contacting PineTree Legal for assistance. They might help you find resources.

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Look for a lawyer that offers a sliding scale for fees. Research child custody laws in Maine too. You might find some legal assistance for the paperwork.

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I’m sorry you’re going through this. If you can’t afford legal help, look for programs in your area that assist with legal counsel.