I don’t know where to start. My ex’s mom wanted our baby as her own. She didn’t want me to nurse the baby, she wanted me to give her the baby, she made a nursery at her house, she took bottles out of my hand when we transitioned to bottles. My ex allowed all of this trampling over me, so I put up a boundary, and then he served me papers to separate. Now we have a parenting agreement and instead of me primarily raising the child, we have 50/50.
His mom moved across the country before we broke up, citing she didn’t know what to do with herself if I wasn’t going to let her take my baby. He served me, and there was a period of time with no agreement; he fled the state with our kid. It scarred me. We filed an emergency petition, and he returned her after that.
Fast forward a year later, he planned a vacation to his mother’s house for a week. We are allowed a daily video. A week before he left, he stopped paying for our parenting app and wasn’t able to video. He picked her up from me before they left, and he told me he wouldn’t have any time to video. I said I will be getting my video daily. He told me I was a bad mother for asking to video.
When we did the video last night, she has an entire bedroom set up. Not a vacationing bed. An entire bedroom set up there. Before she moved out there, she asked my ex to move there and said money would be no issue; they’d house him and help him.
It looks like they are making plans. What am I supposed to do here? Wait until she’s a missing child? Am I overreacting due to trauma? When my child went missing the first time with no agreement, they hid her and withheld her for an entire week.