Should I "let it go" and allow my kid to visit her father's residence, or should I file for sole custody?

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My ex-husband had a child when we met. Once his baby mama found out, she started stalking and threatening us and was even arrested.

During our marriage, he had two more kids with her. We also have a daughter the same age as one of their kids. After our divorce, my ex lied about being back with her. When I confronted them, she apologized, but it happened again.

I let my daughter stay with them when I got COVID. I cleared it with her dad, but the baby mama got mad, threatened me, and even said she would harm my older child. My new partner, a retired police officer, and I drove an hour to get my daughter, and my ex’s mom had to mediate.

I then stated I didn’t want my daughter at her residence, and we agreed visitation would be at my ex’s mom’s or grandma’s house. However, they took her back to the baby mama’s house against my wishes. When I voiced my concerns, they told me to “get over it.”

I want to go to court for sole custody. My current partner is livid, having seen many hurt children as a police officer, and cares for my daughter. What should I do?

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Considering the threats and disregard for your wishes, it might be best to file for sole custody. Your daughter’s safety is the priority, and getting legal advice can help you figure out the best steps forward.

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Where there is no custody arrangement, your ex can bring your child around his partner notwithstanding your wishes.

You need to consult with a family law attorney. They will advise on custody arrangements and how to cope with the other woman’s threats. You’re unlikely to obtain exclusive custody unless you can demonstrate that the father is unfit. It may be appropriate to ask that she not be allowed near your daughter. It’s irrelevant that your new partner is a retired cop.