I’m in a tough spot and could use some advice. How does one increase child support if we’ve already agreed to a downward deviation at the time of the divorce? Circumstances have changed recently, like sudden attorney and GAL fees piling up. The paying parent is now making double the salary of the receiving party, and I’ve already filed for more. It’s been over a year since I filed, and it keeps getting pushed back. The paying party ignores bids to agree, makes piddly offers, and doesn’t provide the requested documents. Their attorney even claims the salaries were calculated incorrectly. Not to mention, the paying party bought a new car and has gone on several international vacations since the separation while living in a big house and paying for housekeeping. I have the majority of parenting time and have taken on extra work to cover expenses, but I’ve racked up significant credit card debt due to attorney fees. This is all pretty overwhelming, especially since we’re not even getting close to a resolution. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated… I’m feeling pretty down about this.
Wow, that sounds really frustrating. Have you thought about going back to court to adjust the support? Seems like you have solid reasons.
Tallis said:
Wow, that sounds really frustrating. Have you thought about going back to court to adjust the support? Seems like you have solid reasons.
Yeah, I filed already, but it just keeps getting delayed. It’s exhausting.
I get that. It’s tough when the other parent isn’t cooperating. Maybe you could document everything? That might help your case.
Cassie said:
I get that. It’s tough when the other parent isn’t cooperating. Maybe you could document everything? That might help your case.
What do you mean by documenting everything? Like, notes or something?
@Tallis
Yeah, just keep track of all the communications, offers, and any changes in their financial situation. It could show the court how things have changed.
Ugh, that sounds like a mess. I think you might need to push for mediation or something if the other side keeps stalling.
Have you talked to your attorney about this? They might have some strategies to get the ball rolling again.
Tariq said:
Have you talked to your attorney about this? They might have some strategies to get the ball rolling again.
Yeah, but it feels like they’re just as stuck as I am. I really don’t want to add more attorney fees, though.
Sorry you’re going through this! It’s rough when one parent seems to have it all while the other is struggling. 