I’ve been married for 54 years and I’m really trying to keep my wife alive. However, without Power of Attorney (POA) or any legal authority, it’s incredibly challenging. My wife has delusional schizophrenia, high blood pressure, type 2 diabetes, and other conditions. The biggest issue I’m facing right now is that HIPAA rules prevent her medical providers from sharing information with me, which makes things difficult. I need help but can’t get any assistance unless she gives someone permission. My daughters are listed as her POA, but they’re both single moms and work full-time, which makes things even harder. I’m literally her only caregiver, but I can’t seem to get the legal power I need. Anyone been through something similar or have advice? I need to figure out how to make this work.
That sounds like an incredibly tough situation. I can’t imagine how frustrating it must be to not have the legal authority you need to take care of her. Have you considered applying for guardianship? That could help you get the power of attorney you’d need to access her medical information and make decisions.
@Maxwell
Guardianship seems like the best option. But from what I know, you’d need to show that the daughters aren’t fulfilling their role as POA. If they aren’t involved enough, that could help you in court.
@Alix
Right, I think it might come down to proving that you’re the one doing the heavy lifting. It sounds like you have the most hands-on care, which could help your case.
I’m really sorry you’re going through this. It sounds like it’s a really tough spot to be in. If your daughters are too busy, is there anyone else who could help you with the guardianship process or maybe just providing support in the meantime?
@Blane
I’m really trying to handle everything on my own. The stress is a lot, but it’s hard to trust anyone else to step in. I think getting the ADRC involved is my next move, but I’m feeling overwhelmed.
I think working with the ADRC of Columbia County is a great idea. They should be able to help you figure out how to start the guardianship process. The legal paperwork can be confusing, but they can guide you through it.
@Hux
Thanks for the advice! I’ll definitely reach out to them. It feels like a lot, but I know it’s the right next step.
I’m not sure if this helps, but some people suggest documenting everything you’re doing for her care. If you can show that you’re the one consistently providing daily care, it could help your case if you go for guardianship.
@Finnley
That’s a good idea. I’ve been keeping track of everything as best as I can. I’ll definitely make sure I have that documentation ready.
If guardianship doesn’t work out, have you looked into other legal tools like a healthcare proxy or a durable power of attorney for healthcare? I think some states let you establish one if you show the person is unable to make their own decisions.
@Bran
I’ve thought about that, but I’m still not sure if it would work in our situation. I’ll definitely explore all the options though. Thanks for the suggestion.