Follow up to my previous post. It has been 21 days with no contact with my young children. At the start of the divorce process, no court orders yet, don’t even have a custody hearing yet. We were largely amicable, then I started talking about working up to 50-50 custody and she lost it. I came home to her having taken off with our children. With no orders in place with the court yet, all the police can do is wellness calls. She has been ignoring my requests for any video call with them. Further complicating this, she filed a false DVRO against me, which will be disproven. The judge granted a temporary stay-away order. I now have a lawyer for this DVRO hearing and another for the divorce. My ex is weaponizing the DV process. I feel powerless against her, and I just want to be with my kids.
My cousin went through something similar. It took her four months to get her kids back. Don’t lose hope; it will work out.
Your case parallels mine. I’m at 25 days without seeing my daughter, and I had to hire lawyers in two states. Just keep going; it will work out.
Wow, this reads exactly like the last 2 years of my life. It took me 3 months and $50,000 to get my son back. I’m sorry you’re going through this.
She’s not the first to attempt to weaponize the court system. It’s scary, but work with the system.
You need to be proactive with the evidence you have. If you knew all this, why didn’t you attempt to get custody back?
Stay strong and keep your side clean. It’s not easy, but it’s the way to handle it.
I’ve spent $13k in attorney fees just this year. The courts can be biased against fathers.
My advice is to settle in. I’m on year 5 of this nonsense. The court system allows this kind of legal abuse to continue.
You’re doing the right things. It’s frustrating to wait when your children are being withheld from you. Keep focused on their well-being.
I regret staying in the relationship and justifying everything. It’s been a hard reflection.