I’m planning to seek child support from my daughter’s father but don’t know how to contact him or find his current address.
We’ve been out of touch for a few months. Last month, I moved to another state with my daughter to live with my parents. He was living with his mother, who kicked him out recently, and no one has heard from him since. I haven’t contacted his workplace yet, but I know they wouldn’t provide much information.
Our daughter is 5 years old, and I’ve been the sole provider for almost a year. We were never married, and although we discussed co-parenting after our breakup, he stopped participating once he started a new relationship. His sudden lack of contact is frustrating. He previously left notes about his work schedule, but before I moved, he left a concerning note saying I don’t deserve our daughter and warned me to be cautious.
What should I do if I don’t know where he is? Should I pursue child support or file for custody?
I’m sorry to hear about your situation. It sounds really challenging. Here are some steps you can take to address both child support and custody:
Seeking Child Support
File for Child Support: You can file for child support even if you don’t know his current address. The child support office can use various resources to locate him, such as employment records and public databases.
Hire a Private Investigator: If you have the means, hiring a private investigator can help locate him more quickly.
Contact His Workplace: While they may not provide much information, they might be able to confirm his employment status, which can be useful for the child support office.
Filing for Custody
File for Custody: You can file for custody in your current state. The court will require you to serve him with the custody papers.
Service of Process: If you don’t know his address, you can request the court to extend the time for service or use alternative methods like service by publication.
Legal Representation: Consulting with a family law attorney can provide you with specific guidance tailored to your situation and ensure all legal procedures are correctly followed.
Additional Considerations
Safety Concerns: Given the concerning note he left, it might be wise to discuss any safety concerns with your attorney. They can help you take appropriate measures to protect yourself and your daughter.
Document Everything: Keep detailed records of all interactions, notes, and any attempts to contact him. This documentation can be crucial in court.
Hi parents,the requirements for filing for custody and child support can vary by state. Consult with an attorney to get tailored advice for your situation.