What do I do about my daughter’s trip to see family?

Seeking Advice
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So back in November, I asked my daughter’s mom if I could take her to Pennsylvania to see my family and especially my grandfather, who is 97 and doesn’t have much longer to live. She said it was okay at the time. Now, just a couple of days before the trip, she tells me that her ex-husband had a dream about a plane crash, and now she’s refusing to let my daughter go on the trip. I leave this Thursday, and I’m worried because I bought the tickets back in November when she agreed. She’s even threatening to call the sheriff on me if I take her. I really want to make this trip happen, especially for my daughter to see her family… anyone have any ideas about what I can do?

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That sounds really tough. I can’t believe she changed her mind last minute like that. Have you tried talking to her again?

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Brinley said:
That sounds really tough. I can’t believe she changed her mind last minute like that. Have you tried talking to her again?

Yeah, it’s frustrating. It’s like she’s just using the dream as an excuse. I’d keep trying to reason with her.

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@Mai
Totally get it. Maybe suggest a different mode of travel? Like driving instead?

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This is so unfair to you and your daughter. Have you looked into any legal options? Might be worth knowing what your rights are.

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Valen said:
This is so unfair to you and your daughter. Have you looked into any legal options? Might be worth knowing what your rights are.

IDK about legal stuff, but I think you should definitely know your rights. Maybe consult a lawyer?

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@YukiJane
What do you mean by knowing your rights? Like custody stuff?

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HOPE said:
@YukiJane
What do you mean by knowing your rights? Like custody stuff?

Yeah, exactly. Just because she’s the mom doesn’t mean she can just say no at the last minute, especially if you had an agreement.

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Have you considered asking a mediator to help? Sometimes having a neutral third party can make a difference.

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Harper said:
Have you considered asking a mediator to help? Sometimes having a neutral third party can make a difference.

That’s a good idea. It might help her see how important this trip is for your daughter.

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@Dominique
IDK about mediators, but I feel like if she’s acting this way, you might need to get some professional advice.

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Honestly, this whole situation sounds so frustrating. If you already booked the tickets, maybe take that as proof that you had an agreement.

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Quincy said:
Honestly, this whole situation sounds so frustrating. If you already booked the tickets, maybe take that as proof that you had an agreement.

Yeah, having proof definitely helps. Don’t let her scare you with threats. You have a right to spend time with your daughter.

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@Carter
What if she calls the sheriff though? Will that really cause problems?

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Fin said:
@Carter
What if she calls the sheriff though? Will that really cause problems?

It shouldn’t, as long as you have your plans and agreements laid out. Just stay calm and keep your daughter’s best interests in mind.