So to keep it short, my ex cheated on me during a separation even though she said things were going to work out. I know I was delusional and I hear you ladies loud and clear on that. I sent a lot of nasty texts during that time but never once made a threat. After weeks, I finally got over it and just wanted to focus on our son. Then, in December, she filed a restraining order against me that got denied due to the completely false accusations. She claimed physical violence but there isn’t a single witness or any evidence for that since it never happened. She just used a prior DV conviction I had over a decade ago to make the case look stronger, repeatedly referring to it as if it proves I’m dangerous. Now she claims I’m a danger to our son. We’ve been together for eight years and she keeps saying it was a short romantic relationship, which I don’t get. I have a text chain showing that since the TRO filing, she willingly met with me to exchange our son. For the past 7-8 weeks, she’s even come to my house for pickups and drop-offs. Recently, she texted that she would drop the TRO request and agree to mediation to resolve things. But now, after three weeks of no contact, I’m stuck wondering if some scummy lawyer is advising her to drag this out hoping to get full custody. How is this going to look in court?
Honestly, I think you’ll be okay. It’s tough to prove domestic violence without solid evidence, like police reports or medical records. If there was actual violence, it would have likely been documented somewhere.
@Marin
Exactly, there’s just nothing substantial here, which is incredibly frustrating. I still can’t wrap my head around her claiming DV from years ago when we’ve got texts and photos showing we were together.
You should definitely get a formal custody agreement set up so she can’t just take off with your son. It sounds like you’ve got some good evidence on your side. Family courts see this kind of game-playing a lot, and a judge might not be impressed with her trying to pull such tactics now.
@Jade
Right, that’s what I’ve been thinking. I have to keep everything documented to show I’m being cooperative for the sake of our son.
You really need to keep showing evidence that you were actively co-parenting and that there hasn’t been any actual DV since you were both together. If there’s no threat involved, the court might dismiss the allegations against you.
@mjvincent
True, keeping it clear and concise is essential. I’ve got tons of evidence, and every time I think I might move on, she pulls me back with these stupid games. It’s so draining.
If the TRO was denied already, it sounds like you have the upper hand. Just stay calm and focus on what you can do. Keeping everything you can to prove your side is key. Your ex sounds like she’s caught in her own web of lies.
@Monroe
Agreed. It feels like she’s just digging deeper with her own contradictions. I’ll just keep my head down and focus on being a good dad.
Honestly, it sounds like she might just be trying to get a rise out of you. Blocking her seems smart, but don’t cut off your access to anything that could help your case. Don’t let her get inside your head.
@Ximena
Good advice. I blocked her to avoid her provoking me further, but I need to remain available for anything that could be important for my case. Thanks for the reminder.