Hey everyone, I’m in a tough spot and could really use some advice. I’m dealing with child support issues with my ex, who is pretty abusive when it comes to money. The child support order is from another state, and I can’t even get in touch with him or find out where he lives. He’s a narcissist who only cares about money, and he threatens to take the kids half of the time, even though they don’t know him at all. I’ve been divorced for over five years, and he’s never used his visitation rights. I want to contact the Office of the Attorney General because he’s not paying his child support, and I also want it increased since he’s had promotions. I’m really scared about having to confront him in person or in court because he’s super manipulative. Can anyone walk me through the court process? I’m also worried that this could open up a new parenting plan, and I definitely don’t want him to get any custody. So, can I modify child support without affecting the parenting plan? Also, do I have to go to court, or can it be virtual?
You can definitely get your child support modified through the Child Support Enforcement Agency. They usually do reviews every three years. They’ll reach out to him for documentation about his income. You should also keep track of all the times he hasn’t taken the kids to build your case. You’re not alone in this.
I feel you. My ex was also manipulative about money. Just keep a record of everything, like missed visits. If he hasn’t seen the kids, that’ll help your case. Plus, he can’t just demand custody without going to court.
Just remember, child support and custody are separate issues. If he wants to change anything about custody, he has to go through the court. And if he hasn’t paid support, that can also be used against him.
You might not have to go to court for the child support modifications. The enforcement office can sometimes handle everything without a hearing. Just make sure you document everything carefully.
The more evidence you have about his lack of involvement and his income increase, the better. Make sure to contact the office and explain everything to them. They can guide you through the process.