So, my wife says she’s divorcing me in November and things are just getting really tense at home. She’s taking my stuff, like my silver wedding band and other personal things. Now she’s accusing me of stealing her stuff. This morning we had a non-violent argument over her taking things, and I kind of threatened to take her laptop monitor. As soon as I moved it out of the bedroom, she called the cops and said I stole it. The cop didn’t file a report but told us to stop being petty and to get along. He also mentioned that she could file a protective order because she doesn’t feel safe with me having guns. I’ve never been violent, but she’s using the cops and legal stuff against me. I’m in the military with a security clearance, and I’m scared she’s gonna ruin my life before the divorce even happens. I need a lawyer who can help me with both the domestic issues and the divorce. Any advice or anyone been through something like this? 
Man, that sounds rough. I’ve heard about situations like this before. My advice is to definitely get a lawyer ASAP, especially if she’s talking about filing a protective order. That could mess with your security clearance. Do you have a lawyer yet?
@Emersyn
Yeah, I’m still looking for one. I’m worried she’s gonna make things worse before I can even start the divorce. Do you think moving out would help?
Kiernan said:
@Emersyn
Yeah, I’m still looking for one. I’m worried she’s gonna make things worse before I can even start the divorce. Do you think moving out would help?
Moving out might actually be a good move. It could make things less tense and might show you’re trying to keep things civil. Plus, it might be better to have a lawyer handle things from here on out.
I’m sorry you’re going through that. If you’re in the military, definitely be careful with how things are handled, especially with your firearms. You might want to move them out to a relative’s house for now, just to be safe.
@Ajax
That’s actually a good point. I didn’t even think about the firearms situation. Thanks for the advice!
I had a friend go through something similar, and she ended up moving out for a while. It helped her calm things down and gave her time to figure out the legal stuff. I’d also recommend documenting everything, just in case.
@DaviesLLC
I’ve been trying to keep track of everything. It’s just hard when everything’s so emotional. Thanks for the tip!
I don’t have any direct advice, but it sounds like a complicated situation. Just make sure you’re getting all the right legal advice and keep your distance as much as possible. Hopefully, things will smooth out soon.
@Odessa
Yeah, it’s been hard to stay calm. I’m hoping things work out soon, too. Thanks for the support!
Definitely don’t take the situation lightly, especially with your security clearance. Make sure everything’s documented and stay as calm as you can. Legal stuff can be a nightmare in these cases, so don’t go at it alone.
@SERENITY
Yeah, I’m realizing how serious this can get. I’m looking into legal help now. Thanks for the heads-up!