I was just granted full custody and I’m moving out of state on Monday. My ex has Christmas break as his time with our daughter. The order says he pays for her to fly to him, and I pay to fly her back. If we use the halfway point, we both pay our own way. He plans to get her tomorrow morning but won’t confirm the plans for me to get her back. If I have to fly, I’ll need to buy 3 tickets (one for me to get there, then one for each of us to get back). She’s a small child and has never flown before. I’ve requested the halfway point, which is just over 9 hours away. The issue is he won’t even acknowledge the return side of things. Plane tickets go up in price every day, and I don’t want to drive 9 hours for him not to show up. If he won’t communicate, can I refuse to turn her over to him?
Honestly, if he’s not confirming the return plans, that’s a red flag. I’d definitely consult with a lawyer before making any decisions.
You should document everything. If he’s not communicating, it could be a reason to hold off on letting her go. Better safe than sorry.
Dahlia said:
You should document everything. If he’s not communicating, it could be a reason to hold off on letting her go. Better safe than sorry.
That’s a good point. I’ll make sure to keep all records of our conversations.
I get how stressful this must be. If he’s not responding, it might be best to wait. You’re looking out for your daughter’s safety.
Check the custody agreement. If it’s not clear, reaching out to a lawyer could help clarify your options.
Elaine said:
Check the custody agreement. If it’s not clear, reaching out to a lawyer could help clarify your options.
I’ll definitely look over it again. Thanks for the advice!
It sounds like you have valid concerns. If he’s not communicating, I wouldn’t feel comfortable letting her go without a plan.