Hi guys, I’m in a bit of a tough spot. My mom passed away when I was 9, and my dad got remarried a couple of years later. His wife adopted me, which was a legal thing back then. Now, over 40 years later, I’m estranged from both of them. The stepmom has always been awful to me, and I just want to protect myself and my three kids from any legal issues down the line. Is there any way to reverse the adoption so I don’t have to have any legal ties to her? I live in a different state than they do, and I assume I’ll need to get a lawyer. Should I find someone in my state or theirs? Thanks for any help!
Hey, that sounds really tough. I think it can be complicated but definitely worth looking into. If you’re worried about any legal obligations to your stepmom, it might be good to consult a lawyer. They can give you the right advice based on your situation.
@Tamsin
What kind of legal obligations are you talking about?
Frost said:
@Tamsin
What kind of legal obligations are you talking about?
I read somewhere about filial responsibility laws. Some states can make adult kids help out their parents, especially when they get older. It might affect your situation.
I’m not a lawyer or anything, but I think you can look into emancipation or adult adoption. Adult adoption sounds strange, but it can help cut ties legally.
Tessa said:
I’m not a lawyer or anything, but I think you can look into emancipation or adult adoption. Adult adoption sounds strange, but it can help cut ties legally.
What does adult adoption even mean? Do you just get adopted again?
@Franz
Yeah, sort of! It’s when an adult gets adopted by someone else to legally sever ties with their original family. It’s not that common, but it could work for you.
You might want to check out filial laws in your state. They can be a real pain. Some states enforce them more than others, like Pennsylvania.
Lily said:
You might want to check out filial laws in your state. They can be a real pain. Some states enforce them more than others, like Pennsylvania.
Wait, what are those laws about? Are you saying they could make you pay for your stepmom’s care or something?
@Zander
Exactly! It’s a bit messed up, but some states can make you responsible for that. It’s not common, but it can happen.
I think the best bet is to talk to a lawyer. They can help you navigate all this stuff, especially since laws vary by state.
Notalegalexpert said:
I think the best bet is to talk to a lawyer. They can help you navigate all this stuff, especially since laws vary by state.
Do I need a lawyer from my state or theirs?
@Brook
You should find one in your state. They’ll know the local laws better.
Just make sure to have a solid will. That way, your wishes for your kids are clear and can be enforced legally.
Sonny said:
Just make sure to have a solid will. That way, your wishes for your kids are clear and can be enforced legally.
How does that work? Can I just write down who I want to take care of my kids?
@Victoria
Exactly! You can designate guardians in your will, but just remember it might still go to court if there are disputes.