I’m in a challenging situation and could use some advice. My son’s dad and I have been split for almost five years now, and our son is 7. We’ve always lived in the same county, and he’s seen our son often. However, he has never paid child support or provided health/dental insurance, and there are currently no court orders in place.
I recently moved to a different county, and now my son’s dad is trying to get custody of him. He’s asking for primary residence with him, wants me to pay child support, and is also asking for his attorney fees. The problem is, I don’t have the money for a lawyer, while he has already hired one.
Both of us are in new relationships now—my partner has a felony record and is currently on parole. I’m worried that this could be used against me in court.
Given the situation, what do you think the likelihood is of him winning this case? I want to do what’s best for my son, but I’m feeling overwhelmed and unsure about how to navigate this. Any insights or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you
Without court orders and with no child support payments, it might be challenging for him to win full custody. It’s important to find some legal help, even if it’s through legal aid or free consultations. Your partner’s record could be a factor, but focusing on providing a stable environment for your child will be crucial. Hang in there and get as much support as you can.
In custody battles, the main concern is determining which parent will have primary residential responsibility for the child. This involves deciding between joint or sole custody arrangements, always keeping the child’s best interests in mind, including stability and the quality of the parents’ relationship with the child.
Child support addresses the financial needs of the child and is calculated based on both the parent’s income and the child’s needs. It can be modified if there are significant changes in circumstances affecting either parent’s financial situation.
Regarding medical care, concerns include ensuring health insurance coverage and managing out-of-pocket expenses. The responsibility for these costs is shared based on each parent’s financial capacity and the custody arrangement.
During custody battles, avoid involving your children in disputes. Don’t bad-mouth your ex, ask kids to pick sides, or use them as messengers. Let them be kids, maintain routines, and assure them both parents love them. Be punctual, respectful, and cautious when introducing new partners. Focus on their well-being.
