I have a 6-year-old daughter. She is extremely impulsive, physically hurts her baby brother who’s 1, lacks empathy (her eyes look dead when these things occur), and has no cognizance of the significance of what she is doing. Sometimes it’s like someone flicks a light switch and she switches in and out of these moods. Whenever these moods are ‘on,’ I have to keep her baby brother away from her because I don’t know what she will do. She has HUGE tantrums where she enters a fugue state and never remembers what she does during these tantrums. While in these tantrums, she has hit me, nearly pushed me down the stairs, tried to push her brother into oncoming traffic (I was there and stopped it before it got anywhere), and she’s also pushed his head first into a wall because he was annoying her and wanted her toy. When she is out of these moods, she is a loving and caring little girl, but I don’t see much of this little girl anymore. My ex was emotionally and psychologically abusive and he continues to manipulate my daughter, but there’s nothing I can do. I’ve exhausted all avenues and spent a small fortune trying to protect my kids. I have primary custody and the kids are with me 99% of the time, while my ex takes up about 20% of the contact that he could have. He still has parental responsibility. I have GPs, school, social workers, and a therapist all saying she needs a neurodiverse assessment, but my ex won’t agree. He’s saying it needs to be investigated why she has issues in my care, which absolutely makes no sense. She’s displaying this in school, with her therapist, and other professionals. Something like a neurodiverse assessment has to be signed off by all the people with parental responsibility from what little I know. Has anyone ever experienced it where your ex is blocking your kids from getting the help they need and what can you do? I can’t afford to go back to court again.
It sounds really tough. You might want to consult a family lawyer about this situation. They can help you understand your rights and options.
Have you tried talking to your daughter’s school? Sometimes they can advocate for the assessment if they see the issues too.
You might also consider getting a report from her therapist. It could carry more weight if professionals are backing you up.
I’ve been in a similar situation. Sometimes, getting a second opinion from another professional can help push things forward.
If you can, try to document everything that’s happening. It can help in the future if you need to take further action.