I’ve been divorced for almost 5 years, and my 13-year-old son is really struggling with heavy feelings and thoughts of self-harm. He was sent home from school recently, and to my horror, I found out he had mentioned his struggles to his dad weeks ago, but my ex brushed it off and didn’t take him seriously. Now, my son doesn’t want to go to his dad’s this Thursday, but my ex is insisting it’s his time. I’m worried about my ex coming after me legally for this and how the law views a parenting plan versus a child’s mental health. Should I involve the school and let them know what’s going on?
It’s really concerning that your ex didn’t take your son’s feelings seriously. You absolutely have to prioritize your son’s mental health, especially at this age. If he’s expressing that he doesn’t want to go, that’s a huge red flag.
I’d recommend documenting everything. Keep a record of what your son says and any communications with your ex. If it comes down to court again, this could really help your case.
Phoenix said:
I’d recommend documenting everything. Keep a record of what your son says and any communications with your ex. If it comes down to court again, this could really help your case.
That makes sense. I’ll start keeping notes on everything.
You should definitely reach out to the school. They can provide support and may even have resources for mental health. They can also document your son’s struggles.
As for your ex, it sounds like he’s being really dismissive. If you have to involve the police, make sure to communicate your son’s feelings clearly. They may take that into account.
Don’t let your ex bully you into sending your son if he’s not ready. It’s about your son’s well-being first. If he’s going to a school dance, that could be a great way to support him.