Hi everyone, I’m going through a tough divorce and feeling pressured to sign an agreement my husband wants. He says it’s to keep the house, but I’m scared of him and his family, so I feel stuck. I didn’t contribute financially to the house since I couldn’t work while waiting for my papers, and I’m dealing with financial struggles now. I’ve heard about filing an affidavit to the court if I’m scared. Would that help in this situation? Also, what does it mean when an agreement says it will survive as an independent contract? I’m feeling lost. Any advice?
Sorry you’re going through this. An affidavit can let the court know your concerns, but your husband will still see it since it’s part of the case.
Brielle said:
Sorry you’re going through this. An affidavit can let the court know your concerns, but your husband will still see it since it’s part of the case.
Oh, I didn’t realize he’d see it. Is there a way to get the court to review the agreement without him knowing?
@Ozzie
Unfortunately, no. Courts need both parties involved. Maybe consider a restraining order if you feel unsafe.
That ‘independent contract’ clause means the agreement stays separate from the divorce judgment. Violations could result in civil penalties.
Palmer said:
That ‘independent contract’ clause means the agreement stays separate from the divorce judgment. Violations could result in civil penalties.
Thanks for explaining. Does that make it harder to change later?
@Ozzie
Yeah, it can be harder to modify since it’s treated like a contract. Might be worth showing it to a lawyer.
If you’ve been married for less than three years, your share of marital property might not be much. But you still have rights.
Joy said:
If you’ve been married for less than three years, your share of marital property might not be much. But you still have rights.
That’s good to know. Does that include part of the house value, even if I didn’t pay toward it?
@Ozzie
Yes, you could claim part of the home’s value from the time you were married. An appraisal can help figure that out.
It sounds like he’s using your fear to rush things. No one can force you to sign. A local lawyer could help you understand your rights better.
Barbara said:
It sounds like he’s using your fear to rush things. No one can force you to sign. A local lawyer could help you understand your rights better.
I’m scared about my immigration status too. Could that get affected if I don’t agree?
@Ozzie
You should talk to an immigration lawyer for that part. But don’t let fear push you into an unfair deal.
I know it’s tough, but signing just to keep the peace might not be the best long-term move. Fight for what’s fair.
Lucy said:
I know it’s tough, but signing just to keep the peace might not be the best long-term move. Fight for what’s fair.
You’re right, but I feel so overwhelmed. How do I even start fighting when I’m this scared?
@Ozzie
Start with a lawyer. Even a consultation can help you feel more confident about your options.