I just got back home to Kansas after living in Arizona with my ex-boyfriend and had my baby in April. After he became abusive, I had to leave. Recently, he was charged with assault and child endangerment after a violent incident. He has a criminal history, including child abuse and drug charges. Now he’s threatening 50/50 custody, but I’m terrified to have my son alone with him. Can anyone reassure me that he’s unlikely to get 50/50 custody and offer advice on what to do next?
Your concerns are valid. Given his history, it’s doubtful a court would grant him 50/50 custody. Document everything, secure legal representation, and consider filing for full custody in Kansas. The court prioritizes the child’s safety.
Reach out to local DV shelters for resources. Lock down your social media and consider getting cameras for your safety. Report his harassment to the police.
Establish residency in Kansas for custody purposes. Get your baby on KanCare and file for 100% physical and legal custody as soon as you can.
With his charges, he’s unlikely to get 50/50 custody. Document everything and report any harassment. Consider getting a protective order.
If he’s not on the birth certificate, he’ll need to file for paternity in Kansas. If he files in Arizona, respond by filing a motion to dismiss based on jurisdiction.