So, I’ve been stuck in this situation where I haven’t seen my kids in more than 170 days now. It’s all following some domestic violence charges I had to press against my ex-wife for not keeping her hands to herself. The courts seem to have helped her way more than they ever did for me, and now I’m stuck in this endless cycle of continuances. I have to wait for her criminal case to go forward because they don’t want to infringe on her 5th amendment rights. I get it, but it feels so unfair. If she can make false accusations and then plead the fifth, that just doesn’t sit right with me. I really miss my kids. Honestly, I don’t even care anymore about what she did to me. I just want the DV charges to go away so I can get on with this civil stuff, but since it’s State vs. Her, there’s nothing I can do about it.
I left her and said I’d keep covering her bills, and then she motions for divorce. Now she wants $1,000 in child support, $1,500 in spousal support, and $2,600 for bills and utilities that I was okay covering because it was for my kids. Plus, I’m paying $400 for their health insurance. That’s like 80 percent of my net income. She’s lied all over her protective order filing too. I feel like I’ve lost everything as a man. Losing a job is one thing, but losing your wife and kids? That’s something else.
Let me break down my current obligations: I’m paying $1,300 for rent, $150 for electric, $100 for gas, $50 for phone, $60 for water, $20 for trash, and $250 for my car payment. And in return, I lose my kids, my gun rights, access to a local college I wanted to attend because she works there, and I can’t even go back home. What kind of world is this?