How can I help my dad get into a nursing home and take control of his finances?

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Hey everyone, I have a personal question that’s been on my mind. My dad is 97 and lives in Roanoke Rapids, NC. His wife, who’s in her late seventies, is in a nursing home with terminal brain cancer. My dad is currently in the hospital because his wife’s daughter hasn’t been feeding him properly. She controls his money, and I’ve just been granted power of attorney over his health. I want to get him into a nursing home so he can get proper care. What do I need to do to gain control of his finances to make this happen?

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Hey, I’m so sorry to hear about all this. I think the key thing here is getting a power of attorney (POA) for your dad’s finances. If you’ve already got that for health, you should be able to step in. If your dad’s able to sign it, that’s a huge step.

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@Thorne
Yeah, that’s what I’m hoping for. He can sign it, but his mind’s a bit confused. Hopefully, he’ll be able to do it. Thanks for the info!

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It sounds like you’re in a tough spot. If your dad can sign a POA, it’ll make the process a lot easier. You can avoid the court process by doing that, which is a relief. Have you gotten any advice from the hospital yet?

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@Imogen
The hospital’s been helpful, but they mostly pushed for me to take over his health care. I’m just focusing on the financial part now.

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I think you’re on the right track. The POA should help you get the authority you need. If there’s any doubt about him signing it, a notarized POA can avoid the need for guardianship, which is a huge win. Hope that helps!

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@Emma
That’s a good point. I’ll make sure the POA is notarized to avoid extra complications. Thanks!

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I agree with everyone here. The POA is really the key. Once you have that, you can take charge of his finances without the need for court involvement, which will save time and money.

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Smart said:
I agree with everyone here. The POA is really the key. Once you have that, you can take charge of his finances without the need for court involvement, which will save time and money.

Sounds simple enough. I’m glad it’s not too complicated. Thanks for reassuring me!

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It really sounds like the POA is going to be your best route. Once it’s in place, you can handle the financial side of things, and hopefully, he can get the care he needs in the nursing home. Stay strong!

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@Brooke
Thanks, I appreciate all the advice! I just want him to be comfortable and well cared for.