I’m a single mom of two girls, dealing with domestic violence caused by their father and his family. I’ve tried to make things better for the kids, but nothing’s improved. The court keeps pushing for shared parenting, but he’s using the kids to control me. I need advice on how to break away and ensure my kids are safe. Anyone been through something similar?
Even if you leave, custody agreements are still binding. Have you reported the abuse to the police? That could be key.
SarahLawson said:
Even if you leave, custody agreements are still binding. Have you reported the abuse to the police? That could be key.
Yeah, I’ve reported some incidents, but it feels like nothing ever comes of it. Any tips on handling this better?
SarahLawson said:
Even if you leave, custody agreements are still binding. Have you reported the abuse to the police? That could be key.
You might need a better lawyer. Some focus specifically on domestic violence and custody cases. Look into it.
Sounds like shared parenting isn’t working for you. Could you push for full custody based on the abuse?
Reed said:
Sounds like shared parenting isn’t working for you. Could you push for full custody based on the abuse?
That’s the goal, but the court keeps emphasizing shared parenting. How do I get them to listen to my side?
Reed said:
Sounds like shared parenting isn’t working for you. Could you push for full custody based on the abuse?
Maybe gather more evidence? Like documenting everything—missed meals, bruises, etc. Could help your case.
What’s a 2-2-3 schedule? I don’t think I’ve heard of that before.
Frey said:
What’s a 2-2-3 schedule? I don’t think I’ve heard of that before.
It’s a custody schedule where kids spend 2 days with one parent, 2 with the other, and 3 alternating. It’s exhausting.
Frey said:
What’s a 2-2-3 schedule? I don’t think I’ve heard of that before.
Yeah, sounds rough. Especially with your work schedule. Could you request a more stable arrangement in court?
Why does he get to claim both kids on taxes? That seems unfair. Can you negotiate that?
Laurel said:
Why does he get to claim both kids on taxes? That seems unfair. Can you negotiate that?
It’s part of his lawyer’s proposal—he gets both in odd years. I’m hoping to fight that in court.
Laurel said:
Why does he get to claim both kids on taxes? That seems unfair. Can you negotiate that?
Good luck! Maybe bring up how you’re covering all their expenses to argue for claiming them.
If he’s not taking proper care of the kids (no jackets in winter, etc.), can you use that to get sole custody?
Rory said:
If he’s not taking proper care of the kids (no jackets in winter, etc.), can you use that to get sole custody?
That’s part of what I’m documenting. Hoping it’ll make a difference in the court’s decision.
Rory said:
If he’s not taking proper care of the kids (no jackets in winter, etc.), can you use that to get sole custody?
Stay strong! Courts can be slow, but consistency and evidence will help you get there.