I’ve been struggling with the idea of divorce and honestly don’t know if it’s the right step or not. How do you actually know when it’s time to call it quits? I feel like I’ve tried everything, but it’s still not working. Has anyone been through this and figured out when it was time to end things?
I totally get where you’re coming from. For me, it was when I felt like we just weren’t a team anymore, you know? Like we were just existing in the same space but not really ‘together’ anymore. If you feel like you’re exhausted from trying to make it work, that could be a sign.
@Sai
Yep, felt the same. When you feel like roommates rather than partners, it’s a rough place to be. That was the big wake-up call for me with my ex.
Tate said:
@Sai
Yep, felt the same. When you feel like roommates rather than partners, it’s a rough place to be. That was the big wake-up call for me with my ex.
Exactly. When the connection is just… gone, it’s hard to keep pretending. That’s when I knew I had to make a change.
For me, I just kept asking if I’d regret leaving more than staying. Once I realized I was more scared of staying in the relationship than leaving, that was it.
Anya said:
For me, I just kept asking if I’d regret leaving more than staying. Once I realized I was more scared of staying in the relationship than leaving, that was it.
That’s a really good point. So, it’s like when leaving feels like it’ll bring more peace than staying?
@Lian
Exactly. If staying feels like it’s just draining you, then leaving might actually be the healthy choice.
Honestly, counseling helped me figure it out. Having a third person there made me see things clearly.
Dare said:
Honestly, counseling helped me figure it out. Having a third person there made me see things clearly.
How long did you do counseling before deciding?
Dare said:
Honestly, counseling helped me figure it out. Having a third person there made me see things clearly.
How long did you do counseling before deciding?
About 6 months. It gave me time to decide if I was staying out of love or just guilt.
If you’re always questioning if you’d be happier alone, that’s usually a big clue. It took me forever to accept it, but once I did, everything felt a bit clearer.
Landry said:
If you’re always questioning if you’d be happier alone, that’s usually a big clue. It took me forever to accept it, but once I did, everything felt a bit clearer.
Makes sense. When you can picture a future where you’re happier on your own, that’s a strong sign.
I knew it was time when I felt more ‘me’ around my friends than with my spouse. If you can’t be yourself around them, it’s a sign something’s off.
Dale said:
I knew it was time when I felt more ‘me’ around my friends than with my spouse. If you can’t be yourself around them, it’s a sign something’s off.
Yep, been there. When you’re more comfortable away from your partner than with them, it’s a huge red flag.