I left the country to avoid paying child support for a kid I didn't want

After about a year or so of dating my girlfriend, of course, at that age, just fresh out of college at 22 years of age, well my girlfriend missed her period one month and month later was telling me she was pregnant. We always used protection, and she was on the pill yet the test came out, positive.

We had agreed that we wanted to start a family in at least five years and so I mentally prepared to go in for an abortion. Three weeks later she changed her mind and decided to keep it. I explained the state of our finances and my unreadiness, but she said that it did not concern me and that the decision originated from her.

We also had constant arguments and we later decided to part with each other. My parents advised me to migrate to another country. After some time I realized that because of Dual citizenship and lack of treaties that could be applied in the United States, I could completely avoid paying child support.

The last time I heard, her pregnancy was hitch-free and she was trying her best to get my line through friends. This I only told some of my friends. Sometimes I even question of the right to raise the child but the aspect of not having any option in the whole process still puzzles me.

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Does this mean you can not visit the US anymore without risking arrest?

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In many states, there is no time limit for collecting child support. This means you could pursue someone for unpaid child support even 50 years later.

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Both the US and countries with which it has child support agreements are involved. Child support debt doesn’t disappear.

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I left the US in my early 20s, and my family and I are now all US citizens. When I came back to visit in my mid-30s, I found out I hadn’t paid the last part of a DUI fine (less than $100). Two sheriffs were waiting for me when I got off the plane, and I went straight to jail. It was a wild experience—they never forget!

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Wow, that sounds like quite an unexpected and intense situation! It’s surprising how even small administrative issues can catch up with us, especially when traveling or returning to a country after a long time. It must have been quite a story to share with your family and friends. Hopefully, everything got sorted out quickly and you were able to enjoy the rest of your visit!