I’m a 26-year-old mom, and I’ve been coparenting with my ex for about two years. Honestly, he’s not the easiest person to work with and I often find myself feeling pressured by him. Last year, he made me agree to share the tax refund I got for our son, and this year he’s demanding half of it again. I’ve consulted some friends who advised me against that. My son lives with me full-time, and my ex has him on weekends, but he doesn’t always take him. He does give me some financial support every month, but we don’t have any formal custody arrangement. Now, I’m worried he might try to claim our son on his taxes if I don’t file first.
That sounds really stressful. Have you considered just filing first?
Marley said:
That sounds really stressful. Have you considered just filing first?
I want to, but I’m worried he will retaliate and claim our son anyway.
Marley said:
That sounds really stressful. Have you considered just filing first?
I want to, but I’m worried he will retaliate and claim our son anyway.
That’s understandable. It’s tough when there’s no formal agreement in place.
I can relate. My ex used to pressure me about money too. It can be hard to stand your ground when they’re demanding things.
Noble said:
I can relate. My ex used to pressure me about money too. It can be hard to stand your ground when they’re demanding things.
It really is tough. Have you thought about getting legal advice?
@Winter
Yeah, that might help. Knowing your rights can make a big difference.
Honestly, it sounds like he’s trying to manipulate you. You have the right to claim your son since he lives with you.
Talon said:
Honestly, it sounds like he’s trying to manipulate you. You have the right to claim your son since he lives with you.
That’s true. But it’s still scary when he threatens to claim him first.
@Paige
Maybe just file as soon as you can and document everything. That way you’re covered.
Not having a formal custody agreement makes it really complicated. I feel for you.
Sophia said:
Not having a formal custody agreement makes it really complicated. I feel for you.
Yeah, it’s definitely a tricky situation. It might be worth considering a custody agreement in the future.
It sounds like he’s just trying to get something for himself. You should prioritize what’s best for your son.
Caden said:
It sounds like he’s just trying to get something for himself. You should prioritize what’s best for your son.
Exactly. Always put your son first and don’t let his threats get to you.
@Rowen
For real. You know your situation best, so trust your instincts.